Hey World! It’s me again!
I don’t know if any of you guys saw, but I finally decided to talk to the Distinguished_Gentleman about my celibacy.
Yup. You heard right.
Why, you ask? Because I found (with the help of my awesome readers and commenters) that I needed to tell him before things got serious and any sexual tension cropped up between us. That way, he wouldn’t be expecting anything that I couldn’t (or rather, wouldn’t) deliver.
So the next time I saw him, I sat him down and told him I wanted to talk.
and I just blurted out, “How do you feel about not having sex until, say, October 1st, 2011?”
Of course, he was on the floor laughing. No bueno. I was serious and he was on the floor about to pee himself, laughing! WTF?
“Babe, why such a specific date? If you don’t want to have sex for a while, cool, but it sounds like you’ve got this all figured out in your head using some sort of formula or something. I mean, I know you go to that nerd school and all, but damn.”
I gotta admit, I could kind of see how just bustin’ out a specific date on him could be considered… slightly funny. But this negroid was still on the floor, and he hadn’t stopped laughing yet. Matter of fact, there were tears in his eyes.
I feel like… it just wasn’t that funny.
I guess he saw the look on my face because he straightened up and asked me seriously for my reasoning behind the date.
And I told him everything.
I told him about my past and how I felt like I needed to give myself time to heal and discover more about myself without having sex in the picture as a means of doping myself up, so to speak.
Because we all know sex (well, good sex) is something like a drug. That’s why you can’t just go around doing it in public. That ish is a controlled substance.
Better cuff yo’ dealer, quick!
Anyhow, after he heard all of the sordid details about my past, he gave me a hug (how cheesy… but still oh-so-sweet) and told me that if I wanted to wait, he’d try to tough it out with me.
“I can’t make any promises that I won’t want it at times, because 10 months is a long time, but I support your decision and I won’t cheat on you, so I guess we are in this together.”
I gotta say, I’m pretty glad that we are in this together.
Peace, Love, and Acceptance,
SuperCoils
my friend sent me this post via email. girl… you have will power i don’t choose to possess at this time! 🙂 and dude is awesome, for caring enough about you to try to wait.
bookmarking this page!
it doesnt get any better than “we’re in this together” and miss lady if you fall short of oct 2011 dont be to hard on yourself if he’s well worth it. you had the power to change oct 2011 you also have the power to “adjust” it
;P